Dear Baba,
Wish you a Happy Father’s Day! You can wish me the same. I
celebrate my first Father’s Day this year. Ofcourse you know all this, but then
a worthy salutation is needed to start off a letter, so there it is. It will be 7 years since we last spoke, though I like to think of them as close to 7 days (I distinctly remember the priest
saying that 1 year for us mortals is just a day for where you are). Guess its the ‘Coping
mechanism’ which makes me think of it this way.
I won’t bore you with all that happened in the 7 days since we last spoke. But rather
tell you about the past 2 days. You
are now a grand-dad, again, yes after 20 years! Aatmay (no, we didn’t come up with a nickname yet. You see chota-dadu,mini-dadu and micro-dadu were already taken so now its gonna be just Aatmay we think), your grandson, doesn’t know
about you yet, but he will in the coming days.
In the next month he will be all of 1.
I must confess that becoming a father has awakened a sense
of responsibility in me. I somehow have a sense of been grounded, which has led
me to a kind of satisfaction which is hard for me to put in words. As a father
yourself, you can better appreciate this. I now realize that we never had a
chance to sit, just the two of us, and talk about everything and nothing. I
feel that when the time came for you to sit back, relax and have my ear, it was
too late.
There are close to 25 years of memories which I have of you,
which will last me for the remainder of my lifetime. The funny thing about
memories is that they are not free flowing. They invariably need an anchor to
survive. Objects, incidents, references,
even to words said and meant in a particular context act as those anchors. Once
anchored, memories have this habit of coming back to you when you least expect
them, surprising you. The sad part about memories is that they are way too personal
in nature. You can try to share them to someone, but you can never completely
convey what they really mean to you. They are both a treasure and a burden in
that sense.
Even otherwise, I am sure there would not have been any
parenting tips forthcoming from you. The only thing I intend to do in that regard
is to ‘be the best that I can’. I can
only hope that I am afforded the time to sit back, relax and look back at a
life well-lived.
Cheers!
Dadu
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